Ask Billie November – Sarah’s Question


Dear Billie,

My sister Ama is getting married in a couple of months. Everything looks good on the surface but I know my sister. She does not love him! She has always been an opportunist and is only after his money. I met Kwame first and we’ve been best friends for years. I’ve always loved him but never told him. Somehow, I didn’t want to spoil the friendship. When I met him, he was working in a bank and over the years got promoted to his present managerial position. When Ama met him, she would barely greet him until she found out about his job status. She bulldozed me out of the way and started ‘working’ on him. In a very short time, all Kwame saw was Ama. Ama this, Ama that! Now they have announced their engagement and Ama is already planning a huge wedding fit for a princess. I am so upset that Kwame does not see her for who she is but I loved him before he became the big shot that he is now. Don’t get me wrong, he and I are still close friends but I don’t know if I should tell him the truth about my sister.

Sarah from East Legon

Dear Sarah,

I can imagine how annoyed you must be with this whole situation but I believe you must have had a few occasions to speak to Kwame or at the very least with your sister about your feelings. Why didn’t you? The fact that you feel she pushed you out of the way doesn’t mean that you would have been the one Kwame would have chosen as his wife. Sometimes we miss opportunities and we become embittered with others and ourselves. Neither you nor Kwame made any attempts during all these years to take it a step further as you mentioned, in your case, not to spoil the relationship. Maybe that’s all you were ever meant to be! Why don’t you give Kwame the benefit of the doubt and trust that maybe, just maybe he chose the right girl after all. As for your sister being an opportunist, why not? This is what life is all about, isn’t it? You see an opportunity and you grab it with both hands. Wish the couple well and wait for your own Prince Charming to sweep you off your feet! Trust me, life is too short to dwell on the negatives!

Smile and let us know how you get on.

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